Reconsidering wax

Last night a business associate whom I hadn't seen in a couple of months asked me if I had given up on the dreads.  I knew that some of them were feeling a bit loose, but it was a bit of a shock to have some think they were on the way out!

I have had a couple of changes in my maintenance routine of late.  I have

• stopped using wax
• not added new rubber bands to replace the old
• aggressively latch-hooked many tips with limited success
• stopped asking my wife to work on them
• run out of Lock Peppa

One or more of these changes have led to my locks loosening instead of tightening.  I don't think it's the rubber bands on their own, but they certainly keep the tips together while they're trying to lock.  It's not the latch-hook; that just pulls hair in, so either it's going to stay there or it's not.

I got frustrated with how much of a big deal it is to have someone else work on my hair - it's more like a hair appointment than just doing something together, and the other person isn't going to have my pain response to regulate the routine.  I know my wife is willing, but guys aren't built with any serious pain tolerance.  However, even though it's easier with someone else's eyes on my head, I don't think I am missing as much as I was back in April.  It takes me more time and it would be good to get the help, but I don't think it really is making my locks fail.

Is wax the best or worst thing for my dreadlocks?

The two products might be the variable to revisit.  The wax, in particular, gave me a set routine:  wax and palmroll one week, pull in loose hair the next, and alternate.  Once the hair is pulled in, the wax keeps it still for awhile, training it to stay there.  As the wax dissipates it has a chance to lock in and tighten.

It could be that the locking process will continue without wax, but much slower.  It could also be that my hair needs the extra help to lock up, and it's just going to get looser without it.

I understand better why wax is so controversial - it's difficult to tell if it's an impediment or an accelerant for the locking process. It's easy to understand how too much wax can lead to mildew and rot, but it's harder to determine if a moderate amount is the right choice.  I think it may have a lot more to do with the quality of one's hair than any other factor.

So I'm thinking of going back to wax, if nothing else.  I want to see this process through, and my months without wax just haven't seen the same progress as the waxen beginnings of the locky journey.

Reason #12: kittens

Okay, this is not a reason for everybody.  Kittens like things that dangle, they like things that they can sink their claws into, they like stuff that they can climb.

I should point out that, as adorable as Dawn (pictured) and her brother Dusk are, having a couple of pounds of fluff hanging from one's hair by needle-sharp claws is not everybody's idea of a good time.

Luckily for my kitties, I'm a slightly crazier cat person than some.  So, I can report that having a kitten attack my locks is less painful than having one attack a dangling earring (that was a long time ago, but I still remember it) or jump onto your lap when you're not wearing heavy pants.

Want to make friends with a kitten?  I have a backcomb you can borrow.

A dream first

Do my locks really look that bad?

I had my first bad-hair dream ever last night.  I was in a high school cafeteria filled with other adults eating.  A woman at the next table turned around to say to me, "Don't you think you should so something about your messy hair?

Dreaming about hair shortcomings tells me that I'm thinking a lot about my hair.  Over the past couple of weeks I've been playing more with the latch hook, trying to pull in loose ends and feathery tips.  The result?  A lot of random loops and ends sticking out of odd places.

What a weird effect.  This is definitely not a "low maintenance" hair style . . . for me, anyway.  I guess I just have too much obsessiveness to leave the little locks alone, giving me yet another opportunity to learn patience.